My husband’s wish was that my first son, Cash, would have been his biological child. He has always said that, and never in a manner of disrespect to Cash´s biological father.
As a mother, words cannot describe how much that sentiment means coming from the man you’re in love with.
Cash’s biological dad and I go way back. I’ve known him and his family since I was in elementary school. He comes from a wonderful family….yet, for some reason, he himself was always a bit troubled. And when you’re young, the troubled bad boy, mixed with a family who was easy to love, was a combination that kept us in touch with each other through our school years to our mid-twenties.
And one day I got pregnant.
When I moved to Seattle, I promised him regular visits with Cash. It was important to me that Cash spend time with his father, so I kept the relationship open, driving across Washington state twice a month so they could spend time together.
Throughout that year, in trying to help foster the relationship between my son and his biological father, his father continued to make poor choices. And it only got worse over time.
Some of you have asked me if I wear hair extensions. And I did after I gave birth because I lost quite a bit of hair in the process.
But honestly, extensions can often wreak havoc on your hair, and it was so much work and maintenance! I couldn’t keep up. So I stopped using them altogether.
Until now. A new company has recently asked me to try their clip-in extensions, free of charge, if I can give them an honest review. Ok, why not? If you’re like me, I’m always down to make my hair fuller for a night out.
And you guys, I’m so impressed by this company called Lavishly She Is Beauty. So I felt compelled to write a blog post about it to share this with all of you!
First of all, they have a QUALITY product. They use Remy human hair, which is top-of-the-line hair because they preserve the hair’s cuticles, making the extensions look more natural.
I can honestly say that since I’ve started this blog, I’ve had these conflicting feelings all the time.
I mean, this blog connects me to so many wonderful people out there, which fills me with gratitude every day. And at the same time, it has tested me in other ways I don’t feel I’ve been tested before. Hard tests. Tests that haven’t made me feel good.
I like to think of myself as an overly confident person, I just always have been. But since putting myself in the fashion/beauty arena, I have found myself doing a lot of comparison games, letting the insecurities sneak in at times.
And let me tell you something you probably already know…..that is never a healthy thing to do.
A good friend recently said “comparison is the thief of joy” and that totally resonated with me! She is absolutely right, and I’m going to come back to that a little bit later….
When I look at everything rationally, I want to pinch myself at the life I have. I live in a beautiful home, have an amazing, supportive husband who is the love of my life, and three beautiful boys that are my world. I have a great career, good friends, everybody’s healthy, and honestly, what more could anyone ask for you ask?? But sometimes even I, someone who couldn’t ask for anything more, find myself playing this game.
I, probably like most of you over plucked or over waxed my eyebrows early on. A mistake we would all live to regret. My eyebrows weren’t bad before I decided to get them microbladed, but I was definitely going for the thicker brow look. I had 2 different consultations, and after seeing both girls, I decided on one and took the terrifying step and made the appointment. I was terrified. I mean this was my face that could potentially be ruined. BUT, I went to a very respectable place with a great reputation, and let’s be honest, I had also been heavily IG stalking the girl that would be microblading my eyebrows to check her work. The cost was around $650, then $100 approximately 6 weeks later to get your touch up appointment.
The day of the appointment I wanted to puke I was so nervous. I kept finding every excuse to cancel it. I had an upcoming trip to New York, and of course was blaming the humidity there as to why this appointment just couldn’t happen. Nonetheless, I went in, got it done, and was OBSESSED! She had done such a great job. I couldn’t stop staring at my eyebrows the first week after they were done.
No, I don’t have them in anymore. I had hair extensions after I had my first child because I lost so much hair. I then kept them in through my second baby boy, but I finally took them out about three years ago and have LOVED the freedom of having no hair extensions! Don’t get me wrong, they were awesome, but the maintenance was too much for me.
Do you have eyelash extensions?
No, I used to have these as well. I got eyelash extensions about six years ago when it was first blowing up, and I did not have a very good experience. My eyes ended up getting completely swollen and I lost almost all of my real lashes. I have been so scared ever since to try it again. I also use an AMAZING mascara so I feel like I don’t need them.
What is my diet?
I actually have a pretty high in fat diet, but eat very few carbs. If you’re familiar with the Ketogenic diet, it is most similar to that, however not as strict. I’m going to write a blog about what a week of my eating looks like, so stay tuned!
Do I workout?
Not really. I did BBG last year before my Hawaii trip, but I honestly never made it past week 13! My plan is to start again, but I just haven’t yet. I eat really well for the most part, so that’s how I stay fit! Plus, I have 3 little boys with quite a lot of energy to chase after every day!
Why did I start blogging?
Honestly, I followed a lot of really amazing Blogger’s, and I would always look and think I could do this too, but then quite honestly was too scared to jump in. I was worried that it was too saturated of a space, and I wouldn’t be successful. But then, with the support of my husband and a few close friends I took the risk and jumped right in! I have a degree
in Broadcast Journalism, and I have always loved to write, so I though combining my love to write and fashion was a no brainer. I wrote a blog about this here.
As humans, we’re a social species wired for community and belonging. All throughout ancient history we lived in villages. We were part of tribes. We relied and were dependent on each other.
Back then, this all depended on the family you were born into, your culture, history, and language. And most of this still holds true today.
Except that today, in our modern world, we have more choices. We have more opportunities. We have greater access to different experiences and to different people. These factors play a big role in shaping our values, and how we grow, according to these values.
And how lucky are we to be able to have these choices?
At the same time, this luck often comes with a price. Maybe we shift and drift apart from those who were once close.
And sometimes the price is even bigger….and means judgement from those who are supposed to be our people. Sometimes it means jealousy. And criticism. So we find ourselves, in a circle we once trusted and relied on, to a circle that brings us down.
Do you know the quote, “You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” ? Crazy, right? I mean, if that’s true, the people part of your circle, tribe, or whatever you want to call it, have a significant influence in your life.
It’s hard to step back, and reevaluate our tribes. Some members have been there our whole lives. But the reality is, as we get older and grow, our values become stronger, and the only way we can truly thrive is by having a tribe in support of our growth. People who say, “I got your back.” People who understand us.